Cuffed Up

As someone who’s been in an exclusive monogamous relationship for two and a half years now, I’m not well versed on the nuances of cuffing anymore.

Since my heyday, the slang has changed some, but the concept is still the same:

Cuffing

When you’d rather be with anyone than be literally cold & alone

-Me, a former cuffer/cuffee

We live in a world where we’re convinced we need stuff to be.

You need acknowledgement to be successful.

You need reciprocation to love/be loved.

You need money to be stable.

You need drugs to be normal.

You need someone to feel needed.

We live in a world where we’re convinced we shouldn’t be alone; where we can’t end up alone.

We’re afraid to end up alone.

But, what if being by ourselves didn’t equate to being alone? What if you were your own best friend? Your own significant other?

“If you have not built a home, if you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby, and you are turning 30, and you’re not in some incredibly secure, stable place in your career, or you’re still figuring things out… There’s just this incredible amount of anxiety. I’m happy single’ spiel. It took me a long time, but I’m very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered.”

~Emma Watson

How to be self-partnered
Self-partnered is not just a millennial concept but rather a new identity that is being embraced. To put it plainly, being self-partnered means you enjoy being with yourself. You do not need an additional person to make you happy. So you can start this by learning to pamper yourself! This could be in regards to doing an activity you always wanted to do or learning something to help you in your career growth. You can basically build the life you want, go on trips that have been on your wishlist, and reconnect with your family and friends.

There’s nothing wrong with being single, self partnered, monogamous, open, or in love. There’s nothing wrong with being lost or confused. It’s ok to feel alone. It’s not ok to know what makes you feel bad & not try to change it.

“Gonna love myself, no, I don’t need anybody else”


Happy Hanukkah!

December 22nd – December 30th