Realistic Resolutions

The first step to keeping your new year’s resolutions is setting ones realistic enough for you to keep. Dreaming beyond your means or having too high of expectations can lead to disappointment. You could even end up abandoning all your resolutions just because you can’t make or meet a few.

There are two reasons resolutions aren’t realistic: they’re too vague or too specific. Resolutions are meant to be short term goals to lead to long term lifestyle changes. Also, who said resolutions have to start on January 1st? Or that once you slip up your resolution is toast? Welcome to a new year and a new self forgiving you.

My goal for my 2019 resolutions is to have one achievable one for every area of life. Ones that are solely dependent on me, so I can’t make any excuses. My 2018 resolution list, while well intended, was really a near future bucket list. Here are the areas of life i’m talking about:

  1. Health
  2. Love
  3. Family
  4. Fortune
  5. Creativity
  6. Knowledge
  7. Work
  8. Fun
  9. Self
  10. Extra

I haven’t quite figured out my resolution for each, so stay tuned for that post, but I can give you the idea what direction I’m headed in for all 10.

  1. Health — The number one on the list because it’s the first thing to fall to the wayside in my life. If you, like me, neglect your health on a regular basis, you won’t need to set the bar very high for this resolution. If you’re a gym rat or a clean eating guru, you should go above & beyond here.
  2. Love — My boyfriend and I have been in love for a year and a half, but have been friends since 2013. While we kick ass in the partner in crime department, we suck as romancers. So, my resolution would likely be date related. If you’re single & not ready to mingle this category can totally be about self love.
  3. Family — I’ve always been the black sheep, so it’s hard for me to want to reach out to hang out with family members, as an adult, after the torment I endured, as an adolescent. My family was by no means abusive, just annoying. But, now I rarely see anyone I don’t live with & life is short.
  4. Fortune — This is a resolution that can really get people down & for an unnecessary reason: dreamer bigger than your means. If you’re really in debt, don’t resolve to settle it all in one year. You still have other bills. Make your goal to make a significant dent & if you can do more, do more! There’s no point in going broke for a resolution, they’re supposed to make you feel better. I’ve found that for financial goals, setting the bar reasonably low will only help boost your confidence when you surpass your initial goal.

    It’s a common myth that financial planning is only for people in a certain age group or income bracket.

    But financial planning is helpful for people at all stages of their lives. After all, everyone has financial dreams and needs. Financial planning will help you identify your goals and create a strategy for achieving them. But just how exactly do you set financial goals? And how far in the future can you realistically plan them?

    Eric Swallow, 5 Steps to Setting Financial Goals

  5. Creativity — Especially in adulthood, we can tend to let our creative muscles go limp in favor of work or just life. However, keeping our minds active in a creative way is crucial to mental longevity.

    As the numbers indicate, life can get pretty crazy. How can we possibly squeeze in self-care?

    Luckily, creative activities are literally therapy for your mind. Whether it’s writing, baking, gardening, sewing, or playing music, a creative outlet can really improve your mental clarity. And if Martha Stewart isn’t your spirit animal, hobbies such as reading and listening to music count, too.

    The beauty of creating is that it doesn’t have to be elaborate or groundbreaking. It can be just about whatever you want, as long as it’s unrelated to work inside or outside the home.

    Kristen Nunez, 5 Proven Ways Creativity Is Good for Your Health

  6. Knowledge — Originally the “school” category, I realized that was too restrictive in & of itself. The truth is you really can learn something new everyday. Through family, friends, reading, taking classes, or just existing, you can learn more than you ever imagined. There’s no wrong way to educate yourself. Even misinformation is useful to a degree. Know what’s right for you in your life before addressing this goal.
  7. Work — Unless you’re woefully unemployed, then you can set a work goal — to be more pleasant, to pack a pick me up shake, to compliment someone, to take a deep breath between calls. If you’re woefully unemployed, let this goal direct you.
  8. Fun — While creativity should be focused on engaging the mind. Fun should be about engaging the soul. Like with creativity, fun tends to get ignored in adulthood, but is a way to increase the quality of your life without really trying. Fun can be anything from taking a walk with a friend to going to the city for a weekend or taking a much needed vacation.
  9. Self — While New Year’s resolutions are meant for self improvement, a lot of the times the resolutions we set don’t really have us in mind. “Be nice to others”
  10. Extra — This is your wildcard category. Whatever’s left you’d like to do goes here. & If you can’t think of anything unique or exciting, go for something expected. There’s nothing wrong with predictability.


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